"If neither party has enough mutual understanding beforehand, and the proposed-to party is not ready for marriage, then in such a grand proposal, should they agree or not?" Li Xiaoyun said.
"If you agree, you can't get over it yourself. But if you don't, the other party can't get over it. It would make the other person lose face in front of so many relatives and friends, hurting the relationship." Li Xiaoyun said.
Sometimes, a person doesn't want to get married not because they don't love the other, but just because they're not ready yet.
A grand gesture under these circumstances might feel like a form of coercion to the one not ready to marry.
While the one who wants to marry might feel the other doesn't love them enough.
Misunderstandings arise like this.
"But if both parties have mutual understanding and have discussed and decided to marry, doesn't the proposal seem unnecessary then?" Li Xiaoyun said.
Zhao Dingli thought about it and felt that it made sense.
