He not only internalized a behavioral rule, but also a set of definitions regarding his own [role].
When Jie Nianzhou expressed anger or resistance as a child, the feedback he received was quite negative—this negative feedback would repeatedly tell him:
Your emotions are problematic;
Your behavior is dangerous;
Even—your feelings are not worth being taken seriously.
Over time, these external judgments were absorbed by him as part of his self-cognition. He no longer thinks "my parents think my anger is wrong," rather, he thinks "my resistance is wrong in itself.";
And "I am indeed a person who is emotionally sensitive and behaviorally inappropriate."
More importantly, Jie Nianzhou also [internalized] a mode of misplaced responsibility.
